In my journey of ending an emotionally abusive relationship this book offered much insight as to why it was hard to leave.
If you have been involved in an abusive relationship or currently in one see if this rings true for you in the reason why you stayed.
Robin Norwood says " The more difficult it is to end an abusive
relationship the more elements of childhood struggle it contains. When you
are loving too much to let go you are trying to overcome the old fear,
pain, and frustration from childhood, when the opportunity comes to leave
him your mind thinks that you are giving up a chance to make the past
right.-paraphrased"
What do you think about this association between staying in an emotionally abusive relationship? Can you think of times from your childhood that you are still seeking approval?
I passage really made me think about the approval I wanted from my peer in school growing up. I was not popular like the other girls in class and I often felt lonely and defective. The partners who I was in relationships with were popular and represented finally being a part of the "in" crowd. I am finally accepted and noticed. Even though I allowed the mental insanity, at least I was accepted.
Being in recovery from being in an abusive relationship has been a long road with bumbs and roadblocks. I would not trade it for anything in the world because of the freedom of being me. And knowing that because God created me, I am Worthy of Love. No other reason needed. It took lots of support and leaving the environment that was familiar.
Women if you are reading this are being emotionally abused you can get out.
Support around you is the #1 enenmy to your abuser. That's why he keeps you in a crazymaking spell. Visit my website to learn more about getting support and enter your email in the above box to get more information. You deserve healing and joy in your life. Despite what your mate has said about you. You are not alone. I hope to meet you soon!
Yukio
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