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Emotional Abuse Recovery

The effects of emotional abuse go beyond the end of the abusive relationship.

All of a sudden you are thrown from an environment of familiar chaos to a place where you are left with your own thoughts and no road map.

In the relationship, you felt like you could not trust your own instincts and games were played with your mind. Even though you left the abuser, you are left with the residue of these thoughts around the clock.
The most important building block for your recovery foundation is validation and self-approval.

If you are like me, you are probably looking at these words as somewhat foreign. The only validation you may have received in your relationship came from your abuser in the words--you are not enough, and why can't you just do what I ask. Are those words familiar?
In order to feel that you are worthy of being in recovery and break the cycle of entering into another abusive relationship, learning to sense your own value and approving of yourself become priorities.
How do you learn how to validate yourself?

1.Detach from needing the.....

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Are you a free thinker or an Intellectual Prostitute?

Okay, Yukio,
What does this article have to do with Emotional Abuse?
Great question!

After reading this great article today,
I couldn't wait to share it with you.
It doesn't talk about emotional abuse in terms of relationships.
It talks about how abuse
carries over to other crucial parts of our lives.

Are you a free thinker or
an Intellectual Prostitute?

Keep reading to find out!

As a father whose world revolves around his eight-year-old
son, most of what little television I've watched over the
last eight years has been kids' shows, primarily cartoons.

Although I'm almost embarrassed to admit this, one of my
current favorites is "SpongeBob SquarePants".

I don't know why, it just is. :-)

One of my favorite episodes of "SpongeBob SquarePants" is
titled "Selling Out".

In this episode, SpongeBob's employer, Mr. Krabs, sells "The
Krusty Krab" restaurant for a trailer filled with suitcases
full of money to a corporate conglomerate that intends on
turning "The Krusty Krab" into a big chain.

Although it's what he always wanted, Mr. Krabs, now rich
beyond his wildest dreams, quickly discovers retirement
isn't all he thought it would be.

As a matter of fact...

He finds himself bored out of his mind with absolutely
nothing to do.

So...

Mr. Krabs takes a job as a busboy and dishwasher at "The
Krusty Krab", now renamed "Krabby O' Mondays", only to find
out it's no longer the restaurant it once was...

Everything is now very carefully "scripted", tightly
controlled by a manager following corporate manuals full of
strictly enforced policies, procedures, rules and
regulations...

Squidward is constantly smiling...

Mr. Krabs' beloved "Krabby Patties" are no longer made by
hand using the finest ingredients, but by a machine using
recycled garbage passed off by slick marketing to
unsuspecting customers as real food...

And...

Even worse...

The customers' money is no longer collected by real sea
creatures, but by an automated cash register.

When Mr. Krabs questions Carl, the new manager of "Krabby O'
Mondays", Carl tells Mr. Krabs "it's better if you don't
know" and closes the office door in his face.

Unable to take anymore...

With SpongeBob and Squidward standing by, scared to death to
say anything for fear of being "punished"...

Mr. Krabs, who hasn't read the employee handbook, nor cares
to, violates company policy and...

Speaks out...

Loudly...

So loud...

Everyone, including the customers, can hear what he knew to
be "wrong".

With an "uprising" clearly underway...

Carl grabs his cell phone, calls corporate headquarters and
says something to the effect of:

Code red...

We have a free thinker!

When I first saw this episode of "SpongeBob SquarePants", it
immediately reminded me of a passage I'd read in a book just
a few days earlier and had been pondering...

In "How to Get What You Want", a book he wrote prior to "The
Science of Getting Rich", the book for which he's best
known, Wallace D. Wattles writes:

"If you are an employee and desire promotion, put life into
everything you do; put in more than enough life and interest
to fill each piece of work."

"But do not be servile; never be a flunkey; and above all
things avoid the intellectual prostitution which is the vice
of our times in many trades and most professions."

"I mean by this the being a mere hired apologist for and
defender of immorality, graft, dishonesty, or vice in any
form."

"The intellectual prostitute may rise in the service, but he
is a lost soul."

"Respect yourself; be absolutely just to all; put LIFE into
every act and thought..."

Interesting...

Although Wallace D. Wattles wrote these words nearly one
hundred years ago, they could have just as easily been
written today.

Think about it...

The "intellectual prostitution which is the vice of our
times in many trades and most professions" has since risen
to the level of an art form and even become a profession in
and of itself.

All levels of business and government are virtually
overflowing with paid apologizers, defenders and ignorers of
immorality, graft, dishonesty, or vice...

People who've "sold out" their beliefs, morals and values
for a paycheck, and often not a very big one at that,
totally oblivious to the true cost...

"A lost soul," as Wallace D. Wattles put it.

Jesus, the Master Teacher, once asked:

"For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole
world, and lose his own soul?"

With that in mind...

My question for you to ponder today is...

Are you a "free thinker" like Mr. Krabs or an "intellectual
prostitute" like Carl?

The choice is yours...

Make it a good one...

It may well mean the difference between having respect for
yourself and being "a lost soul". :-)

Climber found dead ID as Kelly James

Pray for the family of Kelly James ID today as the climber found yesterday.
Everyday let's choose to honor our loved ones. We don't know when we may lose them.
Let the loss of one life be honored by living in the present moment without regrets.



What can you do today to honor your life?

May God bless this family our prayers are with you.

Nicole Richie and Emotional Abuse

Nicole Richie Needs help and our prayers.
According to TMZ, Nicole Richie is facing jail time for her recent incident.

She is being defended from others saying that the media is playing this up and making it a bigger deal than it is.

Driving on the wrong side of the road,under the influence, and weighing 85 pounds sounds more like the reality of the situation.

She needs help. Addicts and abusers don't benefit from excuses. They benefit from reality and treatment for the pain that they are trying to numb in their life. I believe this is a cry for help. How will letting her off the hook benefit her?

Dare to confront the pain in your life, instead of running from it.

In terms of emotional abuse, its easy to make excuses for the abuser. Saying things like " He's good to me sometimes." By approving of this behavior you are saying that it's okay to be abused the rest of the time. The abuser has no reason to seek help, if that is the feedback you give him.

I don't say this to be hard on you. I say it out of love from someone who's been in your shoes. I said the same things. What happened? The abuse got worse, it didn't change. You deserve better for your life.

Dr Phil,Tericka,God's Forgiveness and Abuse

Ruined by Her Past?


Tericka, a high school teacher, lived in fear that her scandalous past would catch up with her. When news of her indiscretions spread through town, her dreams were shattered. Michael, a fellow teacher, says he wouldn't want his kids in a classroom with her.

What's her shocking secret and how can she move forward?



My heart goes out to this teacher who is shunned from teaching because of her past.

I believe Personal shame of our past mistakes lead people to stay in abusive relationships.
Matching the shame of the past to what they deserve in a relationship for the present.

Along with Accepting God's forgiveness comes acceptance of the good and the not so good times in our lives. But we see it differently because it is through "Blood stained glasses" that I am made whole. My sins are paid in full.

Tericka acknowledged her shame and is a role model. The past does not have to equal the present.

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Empowering Women to Shatter the Silence against Abuse

My prayers are with you and your family, JAMES KIM: Cnet editor seen as calm, resourceful

My Prayers are with you and your family. May God protect you and bring you back safely together.

'We are not going to quit until we find him' / JAMES KIM: Cnet editor seen as calm, resourceful

It's easy to critize others when we are not in the situation. Yesterday, I read discussion boards that commented on what James Kim "Should Have" done. "He should have stayed in the car."
" He just wasn't thinking." Some people said. What do we know what he was thinking when we weren't there with him.


Why is it so hard to praise the heroic effort of his heart to save his family?

We don't have all the answers. God does.

To see the heart of this family and resourcefullness to stay alive 10 days with only the shelter of a car is amazing.

I commend his efforts to do whatever he could to find help. I can only imagine the anguish he and his wife felt to see two young children afraid and hungry.

Our greatest leaders and inventors thought beyond conventional opinion so we can enjoy the luxuries we have today. If they followed what people said "they should have " done, we would not have light, cell phones, ipods, and the list goes on and on.

I believe we lash out at others in an effort to protect ourselves from feeling emotions. When you lash out hastily without consideration for others you put up a wall around you. You put yourself in a position to automatically shut down the opinions of others. That's a sad way to live.

Today I hope we can look in our hearts to embrace the efforts of others to better a situation than to condemn them.

May God bless the Kim Family,

Yukio Strachan Phillips

Emotional Abuse: Secret to Overcoming Verbal Abuse

Abuse is a attack of your soul.

Emotional Abuse does not leave scars visible to others. Your heart sees the scar and that is all that matters.

When going through an abusive relationship it is easy to blame and try to fix the abuser. I had to look deeper than my abuser. I had to look within myself. Sure, the abuser had no right to abuse me. By using intimidation, manipulation, and yelling to break my soul into pieces.

Is this familiar to you?

I spent time looking at myself. What was it in me that allowed myself to stay so long in abuse?
I challenge you to the same question. What is it in you that unknowingly feels that you have to endure abuse to be happy?

This is a hard question to ask yourself. Answering this question will help you break the abuse cycle of relationships with your family,friends, and job situations.

Let God heal your heart wounds from the past. Easier said than done, I know. Let me show you how to feel the love and power of God in your life. He knows your worth. He wants you to be happy today. Will you take the step and fight for your happiness? You deserve to be free from abuse in your life.

Visit BoldandWorthy and sign up for the free mini-course that will help you rebuild your self worth and live a bold life the way you want. It is not too late for you.

Codependency and Emotional Abuse

It's good to be back! I have been working on my book that will be released soon. I can't wait for you to read it!



Being in an emotionally abusive relationship is destructive to your soul. While in these relationships a lot of our actions took care of the needs of our mate. That kept us so busy that we forgot about our own needs. This type behavior is called caretaking. These Characteristics were taken from Codependent No More by Melody Beattie.

Codependents May:

Feel responsible for the needs,feelings,actions,and behavior of others

Feel anxiety and guilt when others have problems

Feel almost forced to fix someone else's problems or feelings

Feel angry when their help is not effective

anticipate the needs of others

Finding yourself saying yes when you mean no

Try to please others instead of themselves

The list goes on: You can get this book at BoldandWorthy Books of Healing and read more.

As you can see, the list is other person focused. A little lopsided I think. You deserve care. You deserve to be listened to as well. If we took care of ourselves as well as we take care of others it would not be so bad. We end up being upset that our energy was given without anything in return.

When you leave an abusive relationship, you have the opportunity to learn who you really are. Are you ready for that journey. I will take it with you. Sign up for my weekly newsletter and free minicourse at Boldandworthy.com or signup at the box above. I look forward to meeting you soon! Take care and live boldly one moment at a time!

Emotional Abuse Survior to Overcomer

I would rather be ashes than dust! I would rather that my spark should burn out in a brilliant blaze than it should be stifled by dry rot. I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet. The proper function of man is to live, not to exist. I shall not waste my days in trying to prolong them. I shall use my time.

- Jack London

The days of being dust is over! We will no longer stand by and accumulate in a corner. God made you and I in his image. We are creators of the earth. If you are in any situation that causes you to feel "stifled " or "dust", now is the time to bring boldness in your spirit and fight for your soul.

I speak passionately about this because I was the dust that sat and accumulated in the corner. Not allowing the light that God had in my soul to shine for the world to see.

If you want to know how to allow your light to shine again, Let me walk with you and guide you back to yourself.

This is your Year, your month, your day, your moment.

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And It Was Good

Emotional Abuse may not leave physical scars, but it leaves scars of the soul.

Bruises go away.

Words are repeated not only by the abuser,

but by your own mind.

Trusting God's opinion of us is what matters most. During my relationship, I viewed my partner's opinion above God's.

Now is the time to align my heart with God's heart so the hole that I was trying to fill by staying in a relationship will instead be filled with God's love.

I called this post "And it was Good" because God does not require us to be perfect in everything we do. He praises our best based in whatever situation we find ourselves in.

No matter how small; he knows our heart.

So instead of critizing ourselves when we fall short of not being perfect, learning to stand still and know that God is not critizing is my daily qwest. He gives us grace so we know how to show grace to ourselves and others.

Give yourself a big helping of Grace today instead of kicking yourself for not being perfect.
Accepting God's grace will give you peace to confront any situation. Until tomorrow. Yukio

Self Care and Emotionally Abusive Relationship

We are super care takers when it comes to taking care of other people. What happens when it comes to taking care of ourselves?

We forget about ourselves and we become an empty shell of what we used to be.

Taking care of your spirit and body is important to your happiness. The more you attend to the abuser the less you focus on yourself. How can you give away something you don't have?

My sister you are awesome and deserve to freely let your personality and uniqueness shine.

Your Creator did not create a doormat.

You have the right to be respected

You have the right to have your opinion

You have a right to be the best you God created you to be.

I am here as support for you through my website, new support group, and blog.

When you surround yourself with people who see the best in you, there is nothing that will be able to stand in your way.

If I can be of any help email me or go to my website and let me know. I have been in your shoes and know the uncertainty and fears that you feel. I am praying for you.

I look forward to meeting you
Yukio

How Watching Survivor, America’s Next Top Model, and Project Runway Help Overcome Emotional Abuse

Tonight I caught a glimpse of Survivor for the first time. I understand why so many people are drawn to watching this show. It’s the same reason why shows like America’s Next Top Model and Project Runway attract such large audiences.

All of these shows have
something in common: fighting with everything they have inside their heart and
soul to grab the prize.

As I watched Survivor tonight, I saw determination on the face of one woman who was challenged to hold on to the pole as her competitors tried to drag her away to cross the finish line.

I looked on her face and saw fierce
determination that went far beyond the physical realm of holding on to the pole,
but she was using her mind to add power to her goal of not letting go.

Even when her competitors pulled her away from the pole, she reached her arm out to claw and fight her way back to her goal. She did not give up.

The longer we are involved in an emotionally abusive relationship the harder it is to have a sense of fight. Emotional or Verbal abuse chips away at your spirit. The energy to fight seems overwhelming.

I am here to tell you that you are not alone anymore. You are worth the fight and that’s why my website is dedicated to you. I endured more abuse in my relationships because I thought no one would understand or shame me and say that I should not have let those things happen. So rather than endure more shame, I stayed.

That little girl inside of you is scared of the situation you are in right now. She wants you to fight for her. You are a woman of strength who allowed other influences to override what your own heart felt was not right. It is not too late no matter what your abuser says to you. All you need is a willingness to want better for your life. Even if you don’t have a clear picture right now, that’s okay. The first step is wanting better for you.

As I saw in survivor tonight, I say to you: hold on so much to the vision of wanting better

that you can taste how close you are to having it.

Don’t let go.

God did not bring you here to be run down and drained in life. God’s purpose for you is bigger than you can see right now. I am living proof. And you are on your way. Make that first step by signing up for my newsletter that offers a minicourse on how to build up your mental strength in order to fight the abuse from a position of power instead of weakness. I look forward to hearing from you soon. I am praying for you.
Yukio

Americas Next Top Model and Fear, and Emotional Abuse

Okay, I am a junkie of America's next top Model. I love the show. Not just because
I wanted to be a model in my previous life:), but because of what you can learn from
the show itself.

Last week, Tyra spoke to the remaining models about how they were feeling under the pressure. There were two points I wanted to highlight that can be applied to why it's easy
to stay in an emotionally abusive relationship.

1. Tyra said that we are often led by fear in making decisions
2. When you don't confront situations that bother you, it will come out in other ways.

When we think about leaving an abusive relationship we often stay because of fear. Fear of the abuser not being able to survive without us and fear of how the person may react. You could add to the list. So we stay and hope for the best. Mostly what ends up happening is that we die more inside and build resentment not only with the abuser but with ourselves.

So this resentment builds up and all of a sudden, it comes out in other ways.

Being led by fear makes you
feel like you are not in control of your own mind. Know that your Creator
gave you a mind and a spirit that can defeat fear.

You deserve more for yourself than living in constant fear and chaos. What will it take to leave behind the abuse that you are suffering. Let me know and I will help in any way I can. I have been where you are.

You are more powerful than you realize! I believe in you.

At the top of this posting is a subscription box for my ezine from Bold and Worthy.com This newsletter will help you clear your mind and build boldness in your spirit during your journey in healing the deep wounds of emotional abuse. Sign up today and feel your worth get stronger by the day.

Take Care of you,
Yukio

Mel Gibson, Fear, and Addiction

" Those without sin Cast the First Stone"

Jesus knew how our minds work when it comes to judging others. So when the pharisees wanted to stone the adultress Mary Magdelene, he knew exactly what to say.

When all was said and done, Jesus looked up and everyone who accused the woman walked away. Jesus, the only one without sin did not throw the stone either. But what did he say?

" I do not condemn you, go and sin no more!"

I do not condemn Mel Gibson, I pray for Mel Gibson. As a person in the spotlight, his every move is watched. Unfortunately it seems as though the bad things the person does gets amplified rather than the good.

Fear and addiction go hand in hand. A lot of times the addiction is fueled by the avoidance of fear of some kind. Fear of rejection, fear of facing pain, etc.

Many times the fear lurks deep in our past. Something not dealt with that impacts the way you interact with life on a day to day basis.

Instead of dealing with it, you unknowingly create a situation to distract you from the pain of the past. For example, a person who was teased about how they dressed growing up, as an adult may spend lots of money and buy clothes based on fear of being teased again.

The key is to deal with the root problem and deal with it from a place of power.

Confronting pain from your past may be difficult, but the results will be rewarding.

Does fear run any area in your life? The way you can tell is if that part of your life is in chaos.

We only have one life to live. What can you do today to live with more power tomorrow?

Until Then, Live with Boldness.

Yukio

What is your Essence?

"Only when we reveal ourselves can we be truly loved."- Robin Norwood

What do you think about this statement? Revealing the real you is very scary in the hands of the wrong person. You give your heart away to someone in a relationship and hope that it does not get mistreated. At first, you think that you have found your soul mate, the person who finally understands you. As time goes on, the part of your core that you trusted your partner to hold sacred gets stepped on. Little by little your self esteem chips away everyday from verbal attacks from your partner. Suddenly, you forget the person you were before you entered the relationship.

When are the moments that you feel free to reveal yourself? Emotional abuse takes away your ability to really feel free to be yourself. How would it feel to be with your partner and never have to put on an act? It took me getting away and staying out of the abusive relationship to get to know myself again.

When you close your eyes at night, do you long to just be free to be yourself? I know you are tired. It is not too late to reclaim your life. I am here to help you get your heart's desire.

On the top of this page is a subscription box to sign up for my free newsletter and you will receive a free minicourse on how to build your self esteem to lead a bold life. Give it a try and see your life change. Talk with you again tomorrow- Yukio

Shame a Weapon of Control in Verbal Abuse

" Shame is an overwhelming negative sense that who we are isn't okay.
shame is a spell others put on us to control us, to keep us playing our part in
abusive relationships. It is a spell we then learned to place on
ourselves... It's okay to be who you are. You are good enough. Your feelings are
okay, and it's okay to be human."

- excerpt taken from Melody Beattie The language of letting go

You are a beautiful work of art and radiant diamond. No matter what is said to you, know you were created to have a purpose that excites your soul. No one deserves to be shamed. When we hear shame so many times over and over again without rejecting it, our minds accept it as reality.

God is perfection. If God did not make you perfect, why is someone else trying to make you feel like you should be perfect. The problem lies with the person saying those things. The problem becomes yours when you accept their words as truth.

There is scripture that helped me regain my sanity and helped me to leave my abusive relationship that I repeated over and over again and hopefully it can help you too.

" But, I have a mind just like you; I am not inferior to you."- Job 12:3 (NIV)

Job was being tormented by his so called friends and this was his response to them. God gave you wisdom and intuition. Know that in your heart. And Carry it in your spirit. I am praying for you and hope to meet you soon!
Be Bold, Be Worthy because you are you!
Yukio

When Fairytale endings turn to Nightmares: Emotional Abuse

Happily everafter were at the end of all the fairytales I read. How about you? Since Fairytales end that way real life relationships should do the same, right?

The problem with fairytales is that they are just that, a fairytale. A lot of times we take the fairytale theme and apply it to relationships to keep up appearances that everything is perfect.

But you know deep in your soul that you are living a double existence. Keeping up appearances for others in public and using all the energy you can to remain sane in private.

My precious sister, do you really want to live the rest of your live
being numb and just existing day to day. I know what it's like to feel
mentally in a fog. Making rationalizations to just hope that the next day
would be different and happier. Only to be let down and broken in
spirit.

If you want more in your life and want to know how to get stronger mentally to get out of mental abuse. Sign up for my newsletter above and you will receive a free course on how to build your self esteem. Also visit my new website for other resources and articles to give you support on this journey. You are not alone. I will keep fighting for your emotional health everyday. I have not met you yet. But I hope to meet you soon. Take Care.

Yukio

Emotional Abuse:When Love Means Pain

One of my favorite books of all times is Women Who Love Too Much by Robin NorWood.
In my journey of ending an emotionally abusive relationship this book offered much insight as to why it was hard to leave.

If you have been involved in an abusive relationship or currently in one see if this rings true for you in the reason why you stayed.

Robin Norwood says " The more difficult it is to end an abusive
relationship the more elements of childhood struggle it contains. When you
are loving too much to let go you are trying to overcome the old fear,
pain, and frustration from childhood, when the opportunity comes to leave
him your mind thinks that you are giving up a chance to make the past
right.-paraphrased"

What do you think about this association between staying in an emotionally abusive relationship? Can you think of times from your childhood that you are still seeking approval?

I passage really made me think about the approval I wanted from my peer in school growing up. I was not popular like the other girls in class and I often felt lonely and defective. The partners who I was in relationships with were popular and represented finally being a part of the "in" crowd. I am finally accepted and noticed. Even though I allowed the mental insanity, at least I was accepted.

Being in recovery from being in an abusive relationship has been a long road with bumbs and roadblocks. I would not trade it for anything in the world because of the freedom of being me. And knowing that because God created me, I am Worthy of Love. No other reason needed. It took lots of support and leaving the environment that was familiar.

Women if you are reading this are being emotionally abused you can get out.
Support around you is the #1 enenmy to your abuser. That's why he keeps you in a crazymaking spell. Visit my website to learn more about getting support and enter your email in the above box to get more information. You deserve healing and joy in your life. Despite what your mate has said about you. You are not alone. I hope to meet you soon!
Yukio

Why Christian Women Stay in Abusive Relationships

Abuse continues to be a word that breeds shame in our society.

Why do I say shame?

Because of perception
abused women keep silent. The place where the abused
should be able to take refuge is often the place
where they are persecuted the most.

Sadly, this place is the Church.

I believe that Church is a place of healing and love.
A place to demonstrate and
receive the grace and love of God. Lack of
awareness and experience with abuse makes it difficult to
know what to do when an abused woman comes for help.

Where there is awareness there is a possibility for putting support in
place to help abuse victims.

The following is an example of what happened when support and awareness
were not in place in a church community.

A woman getting abused by her husband
got the courage to share with her minister that she had been abused.
She did not know where else to go for support and wanted help.

The minister said that her husband never displayed
those kinds of actions in front of him and to listen to the
Bible and “submit to her husband.”

How is a woman to submit to a
man who constantly tells her how worthless she
is? She takes the step of faith to go to a messenger of God for help,
only to be invalidated.

Now is the time to raise awareness and break the silence in our
churches.

Please contact me and visit my website if you would like
information on how to raise awareness of supporting the abused in your church
community.

Feeling Unpretty?

Today, as I returned from church I listened to a TLC song called

Unpretty.

It was the national anthem for women when it was first released.

The song talks mainly about a woman who looks to other things to

bring happiness.

She is in a relationship that makes her feel like she is

worthless. Then she realizes

that if she looked inside herself she would realize her value

and not let it be defined by her partner.

October starts Domestic Violence month. My heart goes out to

all the women who fall victim to accepting controlling behavior.

They rationalize that it's okay because it does not happen all

the time. Or that it's because of how their partner grew up, he really does

love me. Because of this, their scream is silent and they cease

to exist. I know your pain and help is available.

In some cases, the abuser may not realize that they have abusive

behavior. Bottom Line: As human beings we have the right to

feel value and worth.

Love does not force it's opinion

Love does not control your choices

Love respects the uniqueness of your being

Dr Phil often says that in relationships we should aim to have

the other person feeling better about themselves after being in

our company.

Wouldn't the world be a better place if we all had the goal of

shining light in someone elses life, just because?

Are there people in your life that drain your value and worth

account?

You come away from them feeling unsure of yourself and

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Addicted to Love-Bobby Brown and Whitney Houston File for Divorce

Addicted to Love: Bobby Brown and Whitney Houston file for divorce

"Your lights are on, but you're not home
Your mind is not your own
Your heart sweats, your body shakes
Another kiss is what it takes....
Gonna have to face it, you're addicted to love"

The Famous song of Robert Palmer turned anthem.

Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown file for divorce after 14

years of marriage. Many of us have watched this family

go to court, get arrested for marijuana possession, and

even have a hit reality show.

I read an article yesterday that said that Whitney was addicted to

Bobby Brown. And when you look at the words of the song above,

it reflects in a strange way what we saw on the outside looking in.

A beautiful successful talented woman, who kept going back to

a husband who has been said to physically abuse her,

cheat on her, and makes crude remarks around their daughter.

We look in, laugh at times , shake our heads in amazement in

her ability to rationalize staying in this craziness of a relationship.

But yet, have we looked at our own lives to see if anything exists

that we are addicted to that bring our lives unnecessary pain?

We become addicted to procrastination to avoid a certain reality.

Some of us can become addicted to fear that keeps us

comfortable right where we are and we don't grow.

And like Whitney and Bobby,

our minds come up with rationalizations to keep us in a

vicious cycle of self-punishment and fantasy of what is really going on.

My prayers are with their family especially for their daughter, who is

in the middle of the divorce and media frenzy. Many times we are so

caught up in our own fantasy world of rationalizations. What we fail to remember is that what we do or don't do, effects the life of someone else.

What can you do today to break your 'addiction'?

When you acknowledge the problem,

life rewards you with the gift of power to create a solution.

Live with purpose,

Yukio

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