Being in an emotionally abusive relationship is destructive to your soul. While in these relationships a lot of our actions took care of the needs of our mate. That kept us so busy that we forgot about our own needs. This type behavior is called caretaking. These Characteristics were taken from Codependent No More by Melody Beattie.
Codependents May:
Feel responsible for the needs,feelings,actions,and behavior of others
Feel anxiety and guilt when others have problems
Feel almost forced to fix someone else's problems or feelings
Feel angry when their help is not effective
anticipate the needs of others
Finding yourself saying yes when you mean no
Try to please others instead of themselves
The list goes on: You can get this book at BoldandWorthy Books of Healing and read more.
As you can see, the list is other person focused. A little lopsided I think. You deserve care. You deserve to be listened to as well. If we took care of ourselves as well as we take care of others it would not be so bad. We end up being upset that our energy was given without anything in return.
When you leave an abusive relationship, you have the opportunity to learn who you really are. Are you ready for that journey. I will take it with you. Sign up for my weekly newsletter and free minicourse at Boldandworthy.com or signup at the box above. I look forward to meeting you soon! Take care and live boldly one moment at a time!
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