Can you really have love at first sight?
Reality TV says we can, so it must be true, right?
Ahh, the feeling of falling in love!
Your knees buckle,your stomach has butterfiles and you are at a loss for words.
Sounds like love to me. How about you?
This is what we learn from society.
Fairytales and soap operas with the happy endings enter our minds as women and we seek the mate to spend our lives with.
Falling in love at first sight has caused many couples to blind themselves to the incompatibilities between them. M. Scott Peck M.D, author of the book a road less traveled explains that falling in love, or infatuation, is not true love.
Nobody can deny that when we fall in love with someone, the emotions we experience are very intense, and we feel wonderful and very happy. However, there are several problems with falling in love, that reveal it is not true love.
Erich Fromm, psychologist and author of best seller Art of Loving defines love as actively seeking the personal and spiritual growth and nurture of the other person.
From this definition, Love is not in play. There is something else taking over that is intense and temporary.
Find more on Falling in Love here.
Bottom Line: Don't compare your life to what you see in the storylines of tv and fairytales. Live in reality to avoid the destruction that happens when you ignore warning signs. Take it from me. It's no fun. Show love to yourself with unconditional self-approval before you explore love in a relationship. Filling yourself with love first will help you avoid the pitfalls of trying to get unmet needs fulfilled from a relationship.
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