America, will we heed the red flags?

The Proposal
Barack Obama and John McCain have both proposed to America.

One on bended knee. The other holding a big diamond ring in one hand while the other hand is held behind his back hiding his crossed fingers.


Meeting the Family
Some months back we were introduced to the extended family that would become our family if we accepted the proposal: The vice president nominees.


Joe Biden and Sarah Palin

America's Answer: November 4th 2008
America, we are entering a union that effects us for the next 4 years. If honor our own lives and the lives of the next generation, we will pay attention to the red flags flying before our faces instead of being dazzled by the big diamond ring.


Hidden Agenda: Red Flags
If you asked men and women who've escaped abusive relationships/ marriages what they would tell someone before getting married, you'll hear two common responses.

1. They saw red flags but ignored them because "nobody's perfect"
2. Pay attention to the extended family and their relationship with each other

In honor of domestic violence month, Part 1 of this series will deal with the red flags of abusers and why we ignore them.

Christians and BDSM says (website that deals with abusive behavior):

Unfortunately, abusers can also be very intelligent and charming and can often weave elaborate lies. Think of the serial killers we hear about on the news.

Dangerous leaders are charming and intelligent in order to lure you into their trap.


Where manipulation began
This pattern started In the garden of Eden when the serpent entered the garden and manipulated the vulnerabilities of Eve. By carefully asking questions and observing, he devised his method of attack.

Through his questions he found out two things:
Eve added to God's commandment
Adam's silence. He didn't correct the serpent or Eve.

Satan then proceeded to attack God (I believe he figured if they won't stand up for the truth they'll believe what I tell them about God)

So what method did he choose- an attack on God's character.

They believed Satan.

And you know the rest of the story.

Adam and Eve didn't know that Satan took residence within the serpent to disguise an agenda that served his own interests. One lie to cover his agenda, led to death and he didn't care.

Little White Lies
Lying is the manipulator's weapon of silent attack.

They hope you excuse the behavior because "Hey who doesn't twist the truth every now and then."

Here's the question:

Do they feel guilt about telling the lie?
Are they addressing how it affected the relationship?


The manipulator's conscience is quieted then destroyed by what they want to gain from you.
Since we want to believe the manipulator, we then silence our own conscience, and put our
lives in jeopardy.

This causes assault of the worse kind: Self-Betrayal. All for the sakes of wanting to believe something that we know deep down in our souls doesn't feel right.

Big Danger of Little Lies
Going back to the candidates that asked America's hand in marriage.

If John McCain lies about blowing off the David Letterman's show, what else will he lie about to get his way.


This really bothers me. Because its the small compromises in truth that destroy us in the end.

Practical Example:
While getting ready for a date, your significant other cancels at the last minute. It seems strange that your significant other suddenly has the urge to paint their home office. And today was the only day it could be done. Never mind the fact that this dinner was scheduled 1 month ago. Nevertheless, you accept their explanation.

Feeling uneasy about what happened, you decide to appear at your significant others house for a discussion. As you make a turn on their street, you see another car pull up at the house. This person is carrying dinner and kisses your significant other in the doorway as you look on.

Not only were you lied to, but your significant other is having dinner with someone else.

Your Decision
Do we excuse the deception and go on like nothing happened? Or do you realize that if your significant other is doing this before marriage, its a sign to get out before you accept the proposal?

America, we're faced with this decision.

We haven't accepted the proposal of marriage so we can honor ourselves by
rejecting lies which sends a message that we will not be disrespected and that
you have another suitor that honors you by telling the truth when it would be
easier to lie.

Be heard for change. Heed the red flags and make a stand!